Always be humble and kind.

As I’ve discussed before, I have been feeling a bit more unsteady than usual recently so I have been using my cane more and more for balance. So, I was using my cane yesterday at IKEA, and was shocked to turn around and look out from the elevator I had just entered to see a boy, maybe 16 or 17, staring at me with his lip twisted and a huge attitude written all over his face with his eyes in total judgement. Had I been a quick thinker I am positive I would have come up with something smart and witty to say ha!

This really got me thinking and I was reminded of the old Dick Van Dyke show where Dick comedically walked in the door and tripped over an ottoman. https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=BttXQJ_gDnc

As a society we have been almost trained to laugh at another person’s misfortune. Not to be mean, but in an attempt to keep things light hearted.

However, I found no one laughing, especially not me at the elevator situation. I realize a lot of this comes from my own insecurities of limping or walking with a cane. So I do a pretty good job of brushing it off, you can never know EVERYTHING about another person, let alone a complete stranger.

I was that age once, and I can never remember blatantly staring at another person in complete disbelief and judgement like that boy was looking at me. I guess I owe that to my mother. She taught me to always be kind, understanding that you may not know the entire story of another persons life. I do my best to instill those same values into my daughter. It may take time for her to truly understand but I believe she will get there and is certainly heading that way.

This morning, my daughter and I were getting ready to head out of the door and I lost my balance, quickly having to catch myself and she laughed. Of course, it was completely innocent in her eyes but I decided to take that and turn it into a teachable moment in empathy. I gently asked her why she laughed at me when I was about to fall? I let her know that she will see many things in life and knowing when to laugh and when to offer a hand is going to be extremely valuable. She looked at me embarrassed and said “Sorry mama”. She really is sweet, it was a proud mom moment realizing she is learning to be an empathetic person.

The majority of the time I feel somewhat lucky that, for the time being, I have a somewhat invisible illness. Unless I am limping and need assistance from my cane, you would have no idea that I had a life altering disability. I acknowledge the fact that I am able to hide my MS well for the most part and I will continue to make every effort I can to become stronger everyday both physically and emotionally.

I love this song and what a memorable message. Here’s a little:

Tim McGraw – “Stay humble and kind”

“Hold the door say please say thank you

Don’t steal, don’t cheat, and don’t lie

I know you got moutains to climb but

Always stay humble and kind”

6 thoughts on “Always be humble and kind.

  1. Your sweet daughter is going to learn all of the love and compassion that your wonderful mother instilled in you. You shine through in any color light, my friend.
    Beautiful words as usual and I’m lucky to call you friend. I love you ❤️

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  2. BEAUTIFULLY WRITTEN. Love reading your blog.

    On Wed, Mar 27, 2019 at 6:00 PM Lisa’s Journey with MS wrote:

    > lisasjourneywithms posted: “As I’ve discussed before, I have been feeling > a bit more unsteady than usual recently so I have been using my cane more > and more for balance. So, I was using my cane yesterday at IKEA, and was > shocked to turn around and look out from the elevator I had ju” >

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  3. Yes you DO have a sweet daughter and what a wonderful moment to teach her in it.  It’s so easy for people to have judgement it seems.  Thanks for the gentle reminder to always be humble & kind!!

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